Should I Risk My Career To Move To Another Country Brazil) To Live With The Love Of My Life?
13. Feb, 2010 
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About 4 years ago I met my girlfriend in Paris. She’s from Brazil, I’m from the US. Her visa expired right after she returned to her country. Now, she can’t get her visa because she was going thru a separation which resulted in a divorce which has not been finalized due to her ex-spouses stubbornness and was left without property of her own which apparently is a big no-no for visa approval. We also can’t marry for the obvious. So she wants me to move in with her and go live in Brazil. We are in love with each other and I want to live with her but I don’t know if going to Brazil and leaving my job, which I love, is such a good thing. What should I do? We’ve been apart for four years now and we promised ourselves that if we could not be together on this one there would not be a fifth. Except for the long distance part, best relationship ever. She is very warm and caring and I can’t bare the thought of losing her. What should I do?
Sure go to Brazil, if you are a complete IDIOT and DOLT!
Oh, I just noticed your ID… Doingtime huh. From your question your id should be “DOINGMETH”!!!
No. Just say no. Look yourself in the mirror and just say no. it is NOT the best relationship ever. She is married. AND it is long distance..which is probably why you think it looks so very very nice!
A similair type of situation with my Australian girlfriend the horrible options of giving up my 3 year relationship or giving up my worklife. I chose to stay with her, because I diden’t “love” my job.
funny, i’ve been mentioning ‘Brazilian models’ all morning on my answers…
yes. move. you can always find a job. hot(i’m guessing hot) Brazilian women don’t come by very often, unless your name is Tom Brady.
I would say go. My best friends are a couple in a similar situation like yours. The guy gave up everything, went to brazil, lived for 5 years being helped by her family as well, they both immigrated here to Canada and have been together for happily 17 years, It is hard and it is a temptation to say no at first, but why not?
make sure she is legally divorced though, not before that and if push comes to shove, you saw a new culture, learnt a new language and that will probably make you see the world differently whether you end up with her or not.
You asked this before and my answer hasn’t changed!!!
NO!!!!!
A person can change a Lot after 4 years and you may not like her….Go Visit and that be it.
Life is short… I say go, or you may regret it one day…
I’m sorry… how much time have you actually spent with this person?!?
How about just visiting together? Take a leave of absence / vacation time, if you can, and stay with her for a month or so. Then come back.
Oh by the way, do this after the divorce is FINALIZED!!!
P.S. There is a slight chance that you are the rebound man.